How you think will make a difference.
“You can be shaped, or you can be broken. There is not much in between. Try to learn. Be coachable. Try to learn from everybody, especially those who fail.” David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest.
I love this quote. We all experience bad stuff in our lives, whether bad experiences that are our own doing, or bad experiences that are someone else’s fault. Bad things just happen, sometimes — flukes, illness, death.
Bad things are part of life. The sooner we accept that, the better.
We need to drop the thought that “It’s not…
Why are you being so judgemental?
We are more judgemental now than ever before. Why do we see binary — black or white — and not shades of difference? Why are we so intent on putting people into boxes and react accordingly?
The main culprit is social media. We open our Facebook feed (or Twitter, Instagram, whatever social media we use). And we’re presented with a scrollable list of posts, articles, photos, polls, questions, and links.
Social media is so fast that our brain has to make instant decisions. Neuroscience shows that our brains get addicted by the new and…
Doesn’t sound that amazing, does it, having to pay car insurance? The reminder arrives, and you trawl through the comparison sites to find a better deal, because you just know the renewal is always a rip off. I wasted an hour of my time doing just that the other evening.
And time is precious. My time is precious, and so is yours. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
But then I thought…..
Turn it on it’s head: why do I have to pay for car insurance? Because I am fortunate enough to have a car.
A car that sits outside…
If you enjoy learning, you may be making the same mistakes I always used to: reading, watching, listening, making notes….but then not thinking hard about what you’ve learned, not taking the time to put it into action before moving onto your next learning. It’s so frustrating when you look back at all you’ve studied and realised you haven’t made the improvement you could have made if only you’d put your knowledge into action.
It even comes with instructions for use: which I have duplicated below because they’ll give you an idea of how it works. …
Thank you for sharing this, I am in the process of learning a new language, so this is very useful. One thing that I do when studying a subject or a book(a variant of your No. 2 )- is to build a table in Evernote, with 3 columns. The first column is the headline - it may be the name of the chapter, or something that makes more sense to me or is just a short sentence to name the section in a meaningful way. The second column is a summary of the chapter or the learning - what resonated…
What is our greatest addiction? Asking this question gets you a variety of answers. Many people say coffee, or sugar, or drugs. Alcohol, TV or social media. And of course they can all be damaging addictions.
But one addiction that flies under most people’s radars, and one of the most damaging for our mental health, is a having a negative perspective in life. Talking about our problems all the time.
Let’s be honest, we all do it. It often seems it’s easier to focus on the negative and what is or has gone wrong, than to talk about the things…
Do you enjoy watching magicians, and being astounded when they make something appear or disappear, without you having a clue of how they do it?
It’s great to have that feeling of puzzlement and wonder. It delights us and brings us enjoyment as we try to work out just how they did it.
Go to YouTube now and find a magician to watch. It may be your favourite magician or one you’ve never seen before. Watch the performance and enjoy the feeling of wonder and delight that develops.
Now pick up an object near to you. Any object. Your phone…
When we’re trying to gauge someone’s interest in our conversation, we look at their faces.
Are they looking at us when we’re talking? This can be a good sign. But then some people find it difficult, so their eyes wander. They may love the conversation, but they’re just not showing that with eye contact.
Are they covering a yawn or giving big sighs? That can be a sign that they’re bored, but it may just be that they’re tired, and it’s nothing to do with you or what you’re talking about.
Here’s another way to find out if someone is…
We take so many things for granted in our lives.
A good way to remind ourselves of how fortunate we are is to get into the habit of thinking about three things – just three things – that we are grateful for today, and are amazing and incredible in their own right.
The fact that we can see, for example. Or hear, or walk, or talk. The fact that we have teeth to eat food, a chair to sit in, a cup of coffee, a book to read, a friend, a job, money, food to eat, water to drink,…
You’re on your deathbed. You’re soon to take your final breath.
Then someone gives you a gift.
The gift is the ability to travel back in time and give advice to the present you — advice that could potentially be life changing.
What advice would the wise but near-to-death you, who now understands what matters and what doesn’t, give to the fully-living present you?
Research by Dr Marshall Goldsmith found that when people are asked that question they come up with the following answers:
Have fun. …